This life is both a wild ride and a glaring paradox. Just when you think you have the game figured out, the people and circumstances around you shift and change. 

The family members, friends, and mentors that have influenced and shaped our perceptions were also playing the game of “figure it out as we go.” Can you see that? 

How do you find the truth? 

How do you shake it off and move on when you’ve been wronged? 

How do you put the pieces of yourself back together when you feel shattered? 

How do you extend trust again? 

Many of us get stuck on the need to know WHY situations arise or people behave as they do. We search for ways that we can adjust and change in order to please others or we simply dismiss the experience or the other person as being wrong. Even better, we often insist that they need to change (even when we know full well that they won’t). 

We’ve become quite good at people-pleasing and attempting to control others through the sheer force of will. Most of us learned this from childhood. It’s a survival instinct, after all. 

But why something happens or someone acts a certain way is not nearly as powerful a question as,

“How do I deal with this?” 

Accepting what is may be one of the most difficult challenges we face in life. The way the world around us shifts and humans adjust how we navigate (or don’t) can seem confusing and frustrating at times. 

Yet acceptance is not a simple platitude one can bathe in and come out sparkling with. It is a bit of a journey that, with the right guidance, one can integrate into daily life. 

It requires an internal transformation. One that most of us are fully capable of, but avoid because it seems easier and safer to be the victim in our stories. 

Transformation is not as scary as it sounds. 

You too can experience peace, calm, self-love, and acceptance in the core of your being. No matter what has happened or will happen, you can lead with confidence that you got this. 

This difficult conversation. 

This hard decision. 

This relationship.

Change is inevitable. Pain is a given. Choice is always available. 

Remember, you got this…because Sunny’s got you. 

There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.

leonard cohen